Wives of politicians are more than just pretty accessories, they have a strong voice and they are entitled to their own opinions.
How many times have I found myself at a dinner table or a cocktail reception, listening to others talking to my husband but not even trying to make an effort to have a basic conversation with me?
Sometimes, I would just stand there and the person talking to my husband wouldn’t even introduce themselves to me. Being invisible or visible, depending on what’s needed, is a role that’s unsolicitedly assigned to us, The Wives of Westminster.
Although I haven’t taken it
Why is it expected from the wives to be a pretty scenery, laugh at jokes that are not that funny, and uproar in amazement on everything that’s been said?
If we accept to stay silenced what example do we set?
Why is it expected from a wife to be quiet and get involved only to the extent that makes other men comfortable and just enough not to make herself overly confident? Are we still in the age of Gloria Steinem, didn’t she stand up for women so our generation would not need to deal with this today?
Yes, maybe we don’t know everything about politics just because our husbands
ives have the right to be their authentic self
Despite having a just second female Prime Minister in history of Britain, recently she was called a “stupid woman” by no less than a leader of the opposition, Jeremy Corbyn. While that was said in the heat of the discussion when emotions were running high, losing control of the argument and resorting immediately to
If a man cannot hold up a conversation with a woman and respect her for what she has to offer to a discussion, then, we need to go back to basics and remind everyone that the role of a political spouse, or any spouse for that matter, cannot be defined by outdated social prescriptions.
We are who we are. If we have a right to vote, then for sure we have the right to express our own worldviews and opinions. I, for sure, am holding on to that, and I am lucky to have a husband who does not limit my goals and dreams in any way.
As the Shushee, you are a wife of and not ‘a member of the club’, thus your opinion is not considered to have an validity, particularly if it in anyway opposes that of the Shusher. This is an example of how British Democracy really works, as a wife of (and possibly as a husband of), you are not invited to play the ‘game’.
May I suggest that you start extending your hand and introducing yourself… it will unsettle them.